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more info as i remember... song lyrics pop into my head but they are so far out of reach! may not even be by staind,,, but something about drinking and keeping up appearances?

Staind - It's Been A While

It's been a while
Since I could hold my head up high
and it's been a while
Since I first saw you
It's been a while
since i could stand on my own two feet again
and it's been a while
since i could call you
But everything I can't remember as f**ked up as it may seem
the consequences that I've rendered
I've stretched myself beyond my means

It's been a while
since i could say that i wasn't addicted and
It's been a while
Since I could say I love myself as well and
It's been a while
Since I've gone and f**ked things up just like i always do
It's been a while
But all that sh*t seems to disappear when i'm with you
But everything I can't remember as f**ked up as it may seem
the consequences that I've rendered
I've gone and f**ked things up again

Why must i feel this way?
just make this go away
just one more peaceful day

Its been awhile
Since I could lok at myself straight
and it's been awhile
since i said i'm sorry
It's been awhile
Since I've seen the way the candles light your face
It's been awhile
But I can still remember just the way you taste
But everything I can't remember as f**ked up as it may seem
I know it's me i cannot blame this on my father
he did the best he could for me

It's been a while
Since I could hold my head up high
and it's been a while since i said i'm sorry

2008-04-20 04:52:41 by Karma B

Jerry VanPoppel struggled with finding his place in life, moving between different jobs and different places. He found himself addicted to alcohol ...

Ever since my best friend's boyfriend broke up with her, she's gotten back to drinking alcohol. She's been so messed up and I just want to help. I've heard about alcohol intervention and I want to know more information about it because it might just be the kind of help that my best friend needs. I'm so worried about her.

One of the ways to prevent further alcohol dependency is alcohol intervention. Alcohol intervention comes in the form of counseling from physicians or nurses. They will explain the negative effects of alcohol dependency and point out strategies that will help one reduce alcohol consumption, or better yet, go into abstinence. So far, this form of intervention has been successful in reducing drinking, alcohol dependency, and other problems related to alcoholism. It has been proven to be effective, but your best friend must have the will to be able to undergo this. You have to be there to explain to her that relying on alcohol is not a good thing. I hope she gets better soon. Tell her not to waste her life over a boy.

2007-05-28 01:27:52 by jones.luis_fred

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1) Acknowledge the purpose.
Why do you do it? You have to be able to answer that question. Is it to help you deal with anxiety and stress? It may be hard for you to admit that you have a drinking or smoking habit, but you can't change what you don't acknowledge. Dr. Phil says, "What purpose does the behavior serve for you? If you're an alcoholic, you're not just drinking because you're thirsty. Admit to yourself: 'I'm medicating myself for anxiety, depression and pain. It numbs me to life.'"

2) Think rational thoughts instead of denial.
You understand at a conscious level, at an intellectual level that your addiction is unhealthy, yet you continue and this perplexes you. Dr. Phil points out, "If you're in denial about it, if you're minimizing it, if you're trivializing it, if you're conning yourself about it, then you'll never get where you need to be." If you can't get through the day without a shot of vodka, you may be medicating yourself for anxiety, depression or pain. You may need to count on others to help you think rationally.

3) Use alternative coping skills.
People don't break bad habits; they replace them with new ones. Recognize that you get a reward from smoking or drinking. Dr. Phil explains, "It calms you. It takes your anxiety away. It lifts your spirits. It numbs you to the pain of your life. If I take that away from you and then don't put anything in its place, then you're just there stripped of your coping mechanisms and you're going to go back to what you were doing before." Some alternative techniques to consider to replace your addiction are breathing exercises or relaxation techniques. Dr. Frank Lawlis, a mentor and former professor of Dr. Phil's, has a series of relaxation CDs that help shift the way you react to any type of stressful circumstance in your life. You have the ability to quiet yourself. You have the ability to reduce stress levels in your body in a healthier way than smoking, drinking or whatever your addiction does for you now.

4) Identify your danger zones.
A danger zone can be a particular time of day or your reaction to a particular circumstance. There are times that you're more prone to indulge in your habit than others. Recognize what those times are, and do something that is incompatible with the addiction you're trying to break. For example, if you have the urge to light up during your 3 p.m. break at work, take that time to do your breathing or relaxation exercises instead. Dr. Phil encourages, "If you get through that two or three moments of impulse, I promise you it will go away." You don't have to be strong and powerful all day long every day. You just need to recognize your danger zones, and do something incompatible with your addiction.

5) Make lifestyle changes.
"It's not willpower, it's programming," Dr. Phil says. You have to set your life up for success if you're going to break your addiction. If you're trying to stop smoking or drinking, try simple things like not carrying money for cigarette vending machines or cleaning your cupboards of alcoholic beverages. You may have to change the places you frequent, what you do for fun and whom you hang out with. If you are a computer junkie, remove the computer from your house. The best way to stop an addiction is to not have access to it.

6) Be accountable and have a support system.
Being accountable to someone means that that person will not only support you, but will give you the kick in the rear that you need when it gets tough and tell you the truth when you're kidding yourself. Get your family and friends involved in your efforts to kick the habit. If you're a smoker, print out these cards from Dr. Phil that warn your friends to refrain from indulging you. You can also find addiction support on the message boards at DrPhil.com. You need to find a community that supports you during this time and embraces your decision to be healthier. You may also need to seek treatment or check into a rehabilitative program.

7) Reward yourself.
Overcoming an addiction can be very difficult, but it can be done. When you see yourself making progress, even baby steps, you have to motivate yourself to keep going. Give yourself credit. Reward yourself for every step you make, starting with admitting that you have a problem and asking for help.

2007-04-30 17:26:08 by DENNIS

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Before 2009, I barely ever drank at all. Maybe 10-15 times in my life.


Since the start of January, I've drank heavily every single weekend except one. On spring break, I got drunk 7/10 nights. I know it sounds like a lot, but is this 3 and 1/3 months of heavy drinking enough for my body to form a physical addiction to alcohol?

It can be but there are other factors that go into whether or not you will develop an addiction. Do you or close family members have a history of addiction (to anything)? Do you drink to make to feel better when you are depressed or trying to cover up any other problems by drinking? If you are worried you should give yourself some time where you don't drink at all, something like a month. If you find you need to drink, to feel good or to have fun or for any reason, then you should seek help.

2009-04-11 19:44:23 by ASU

My son is a cocaine addict 23, years of age. He has a difficult time understanding why he can't drink and again why is cocaine a diffiuclt drug to stop using?

I have a brother who is dying (liver) from drugs right now. he is an addict too. It has to do with the liver so the doctors say. It counteracts when alcohol is taken with cocaine or meth. It is not a for sure answer but it does answer why my brother is in the same situation as you son and what it does to my brother. All I can say is good luck to your son:). He desperately needs at 23 to stop his behavior and there is help out there for him but only if he truly wants it mind you. you cannot make him stop or get help. As a sister, I watched my brother destroy himself with drugs and to this day I am not quite sure if he is even alive in another state. I live aways from him but I hear of his abuse to himself and it saddens me. I had my own addiction of nicotine and now am no longer smoking and that was so difficult to stop I couldn't imagine cocaine or meth. WOW! I found out that If i don't stop smoking I would die by the time i was 40! So obviously I stopped and with health issues now myself, I keep remembering my brother and his issues and it makes it easier for me not to smoke anymore. It is mind over matter. I think the street drugs out there are so pure anymore that it will just kill you. I again hope your son is and will get help before it is too late.

2006-02-10 08:40:21 by wjmackew